Adjusting still

You would think that it would be easier for me considering that I've taken care of my niece and nephew but really it really is not the same when it comes to my own child. I've been surviving a few days with a cranky baby. No, we are not talking about sleepless nights, sleepless days is also included. People keep on telling me that if I would like to train my baby, I should start training since day one itself. However, according to research, this is the most important time for the baby because she is just adjusting to living outside of the womb (where everything she needs is obtainable). According to Baby Center, this is the most important time for the baby to feel secure so we should attend to their every cry and that it is impossible to spoil the baby who is less than 6 months old. This however is not what my parents and in laws believe in. It is hard to decide which to follow considering that the older generation speaks from experience whilst the doctors speaks from research (tests included). What I did instead was try to negotiate with my baby. Two days back i told her that if she is in pain, what she needs to do is just drink all she can so that she is so full and fall asleep. That way she can sleep through the pain. That was what she did and this morning, I noticed that her BCG had burst without me having to deal with her screaming throughout the night. I just had to endure waking up for feedings. However, all she wanted was milk and i've been sitting on my nursing chair for almost throughout the entire day. Since the pain has subside (judging from the looks of it), she has been crying non stop, asking for more milk when really she is already full. Looking at this scenario, my mom made her attempt to stop it by taking Zara for a short bath. She kept on crying and screaming while i was trying to put her clothes on (pampers, lotion etc) to one point lost her voice. I tried to calm her down but failed miserably (just when i thought i was bonding with my baby). I keep on hearing stories of how wonderful being a mother is and how things come naturally. Well, I'm starting to think that the connection is not there. I sometimes wonder how people manage their lives and have a well-adapted baby. It really is not as easy as it seems. Baby steps i guess. Failure is just a step away from success.