R-E-S-P-E-C-T!

Ok I have not been blogging for awhile even when I have quite a number of things to talk about. LOL! Yes, this is a place where I ramble (this is where you regret going to this site and pretty much your chance to click on the Close button-that top right button of the window marked with an "X"). On my way to work, I will always switch on my favorite morning crew on Mix.fm. Normally my drive to work will take approximately 45 so I will normally listen to the news like twice some times. Recently, there has been a lot of cases in regards to dress code, public discrimination and humiliation, and jokes made about drinking urine to non-Muslims. Even though the cases may be different however, the main idea here is that people in general have a very low level towards respect. Yes, that is right. No respect towards other people, no respect towards authority, no respect towards everything. Some are making it as if it is a racial thing that majority of these people are Chinese wearing really short skirts/shorts to these places. It really has nothing to do with the race nor religion nor does it have anything to do with the majority of the people here are Muslims. There is quite a number of places with dress codes like restaurants and business centers. Even if you go to a night club, there are dress codes that you will need to comply. Internationally, wearing knee length skirts give a more poise, elegant, classy and professional look. Skirts way above the knees are meant for casual outings and going out to the malls. Sure, there are cases where people over-react. However, the 3rd case was about a young girl wearing a towel so that she can visit a relative in the hospital. People make a big fuss about it but totally ignored the fact that the towel was wrapped by the father so that the guards would allow them to enter the building. She was not asked to wrap up. Come on! In the states, I believe there were quite a number of White parties which was held and that people who were not obeying the dress code was denied entry. So, stop making it such a big deal out of it.What people wear to a wedding is also another sign to know the level of respect that they have to the couple. I went to a number of wedding and saw a number of Malay guys coming to a seated wedding wearing non-collared t-shirts, jeans, sneakers and a cap! Like seriously?!!!!! I'm really not sure whether this little things need to be educated but if you are not sure, you can always ask. Educators nowadays also need to be taught more about respect. During my days in school, canteen was not closed during the fasting month and students were not asked to eat nor drink in the toilet in order to so-called respect the non-muslims. What about our duty as Muslims to respect others? Respect needs to be earned. That is not how you teach students about respect. Non-muslims should be able to dine in the canteen during fasting month and if they wish to drink during school sessions, they need to do it discretely. By doing so, you will not only teach the children about respect but also patience and perseverance. The first thing people should learn is not about the law, it is not about politics, it is about respect!

Time Management

Now, what i understand about the difference between successful and underchievers is the ability to manage time wisely. To tell you the truth, i am very much struggling with time management (sebab tu lah i xsuccessful). Everyday is a constant battle because there is so much to do with so little time. I was raised to be morning person and strongly believe that more things can be done when you wake up early. After being a mother, no matter how i try to arrange my plans and priotize my things to do, it will always change because my number 1 priority is to this little person who is just getting to know the world and still think that the world revolves around her. She's only 1 year old so she gets away with it. Work requires me to be away from home for 12 hours so whenever I'm home, my daughter tends to get very clingy. I can only manage to do more with the help of my parents, parents in law, sister in law and some times sister. Even they have a life of their own so coming home late without a valid reason is a selfish thing to do. So, to my dear friends, i apologize for getting frustrated if you show up more than an hour late on our Sunday brunch sessions because we could only squeeze as much time in between errands. 

Previously, while helping my husband with his lunchpacks, I would wake up as early as 4am in the morning and tend to fall asleep during my pump session. However, now that I've started my masters course, time in the pump room is shared with discussion and tutorial time. 

Now that work has been piling up, i do not have the luxury to go to the gym during lunch time and my sleep has been a little disrupted because sometimes my brain is just too tired and wants to sleep but my little princess wants to play. I tried to squeeze in 20mins of Jilian Michaels FastTrack KickBoxing workout whever I can but I dont see any results as I am not consistent enough. 

Sometimes I feel that im too tired but then again it is prolly because I'm not healthy enough and haven't been active for awhile. That's when i decided it is time to reevaluate my lifestyle and time management again. I'm sure that if others can do it, I can do it too. Wish me luck!

Toothbrush in VaJayJay

The picture above is literally a picture captured on my front view. I' ve this so called love hate relationship with Starbucks ever since knowing that they've been funding the war. However, they have then given out a statement that they no longer / not contributing. Not sure what's going on behind closed doors but i really love their Caramel Macchiato and the fact that I can have it decaffed! So whatever it is, please do not judge or condemn me for choosing to dine here. 

FYI, i'm actually at Pantai Medical Center's Starbucks killing time while waiting for my appointment with Dr Idora for my long overdue annual papsmear. It was actually due on the 8th of November but I was away in Melbourne at that time. Events, Dr Idora taking a leave and waiting for a slot, here i am on the 29th December almost 2 months after my scheduled papsmear. If you are wondering what happens during papsmear, the Doctor will insert a small toothbrush (soft like cotton) like thingamajig into your hooha to lightly scrape some tissue from your cervix. This tissue will then be tested for cervical cancer. 

If you are a woman, it is highly recommended to take both papsmear and mammogram annually. However, since i'm still nursing, i've only adopted to annual papsmear (you cant have a mammogram if you are breastfeeding). I really don't think that there is anything to be afraid of. Maybe it's because I've such a kind and softspoken obgyn to go to that I dont mind waiting for hours for. However, i do recall my mom asking my aunt to accompany her for tests. So, I would suggest that if you are scared, it would be cool to have your besties to schedule their appointments around the same time. 

I've a number of family members who had to endure cancers. Some made it through and some didn't. If you are a single lady who is yet to be married, I would strongly suggest the HPV Vaccine shots. Ther's a total of 3 courses and you cannot get pregnant during that period of time and 6 months after. Remember that Prevention is better than Cure and Early Detection Saves Lives. Should God planned for to have cancer and passed on from it, it is good to know that you tried your best and fought hard till the end.